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HAPPINESS

HAPPINESS

What makes a happy life?

In the future, everyone will be famous for 15 minutes. 
Andy Warhol

A recent survey asked the question “What makes a happy life” to young people who were in their teens. 80% said getting rich and 50% said becoming famous! What kind of messages are these children getting to believe that to be happy they need to be either rich or famous or both!

I will give you a hint: We are living in a society which constantly pushes us to work harder, do better, achieve more. More is not enough. We want more and more and then more….The question is: Would working harder, achieving more, becoming rich and famous make us happy and keep us happy?

The longitudinal study that took over 75 years (started in 1938) and is currently being led by Harvard University’s Robert Waldinger on what makes a good life revealed some contradicting results to the popular beliefs people have in our society.

In a nutshell, what makes us happy is good relationships! As simple as that! Not really rocket science!

It is the quality of the relationships that makes and keeps us happy and healthy! It’s not about the number of friends we have or whether or not we’re in a committed relationship. On the contrary being in a high-conflict relationship without much affection is very bad for both our physical and mental health. And in some cases it might be worse than getting divorced. So sticking with someone or trying to have more friends just because you don’t want to be alone might cause you more harm than being alone.

Good quality relationships provide us with security and not just physically, but mentally, too. Knowing we have someone we can count on during the tough times keeps us happier and healthier. And good relationships do not come in a pink, happy package! People can experience conflicts from time to time. However, as long as both parties know that they could rely on the other person for support they will be happy.

So, being happy and healthy in life is not dependent on how much money we make, how many friends we have or what type of car we drive but  on the quality of our relationship(s).

The question now is how can we have good quality relationships so that we feel our life is complete, happy and healthy?

Hande Binns

www.yournextsteps.co.uk

Hande Binns is a social psychologist, a coach and a consultant and is the keynote speaker of “YOUR CAREER IN TRANSITION; A VALUES ALIGNED CAREER” Refresh Yrslf 6th February 2018

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/refresh-yrslf-your-career-in-transition-a-values-aligned-career-by-hande-binns-tickets-39867540888

 

 

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